Tuesday, January 18, 2011

An End

To some the End comes quickly - a bullet, a sword-thrust,
The End not really expected, just discounted until it arrives without warning.
To others there's the long drawn-out agony of waiting, being eaten alive from within
That most terrible of human fears - of animals, larvae, or, today, cancer.

Three-score and ten is our allotted span, we're told
And all after that is a gift from chance, or luck, or the Almighty
As if we stay through temporary lack of space in Hell
Or through our own stubbornness too unwilling to move on.

Last week I saw my father, spoke to him on a sunny morn
We chatted over finches at a feeder and how nurses were not for chasing.
A talk between man and man, common enough you'd think
This morning he was gone - stubborn and obstinate no more

They say that, near the end, some folk
Wait for something - a visit, a word, an action
That will release them from this mortal coil
Was he waiting for that visit?
J.M. Irwin. 1927 - 2011.   R.I.P.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Condolences!! This is a very well written piece which expresses the subject very well. Thank you for this look.

Patty said...

Having lost my mom to Alzheimers I understand your feelings and frustration. I hope you can find peace in his being at peace. Tola and I are Rav friends; my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Trisha said...

That is so beautifully written. Sad, but… there’s a feeling of gratitude, of acceptance, of love. It’s perfect. I am so sorry for your loss.

I posted on Rav, but Tola asked for me to post it here so you can see.

Girlymom on Rav.

Michael Irwin said...

Anonymous: Thank you - comments and critiques are always welcome. Please consider leaving your ID if you'd like a conversation. You'll find that I am blog-trained and don't flame!

Patty: My condolences to you also for your mum. Mine died bravely 9 years ago from breast cancer, showing the stiff upper lip to the very end.

Trisha: Thanks to you too. Perfection I wasn't trying for - just a little expression.

All: Posting on Rav is always fine - I'm "dcpking" there.

Tola said...

i love you

Michael Irwin said...

I hope and trust!

jane said...

what a beautiful poem. it made this hard hearted woman cry.

my deepest condolences. no matter when it happens or under what circumstances, the death of a parent is so hard.

thinking of you,
jane

mage said...

Well said, sir. I hope I can be as eloquent when the time comes for it. Condolences to you and yours.

Matchstick

Sarah said...

I'm sorry for your loss, Mike, but you must be thankful you got over to see him just before he died.

He's gone, but your mind is peaceful.

Anonymous said...

Hi Michael

Vey sorry to hear about your dad. My parents passed away 2003 (D) and 2004 (M) and the wifes dad in February 10. My deepest sympathy, I do understand. It's been over 10 years since we were last in contact - maybe time to re-establish. Pete